Couples Therapy
If you and your partner are struggling to get through a conversation without it turning into a fight, I am here to help.
I work with couples seeking support with conflict resolution, communication struggles, pre-marriage, post-marriage, power dynamics, gender roles, past trauma, infidelity, trust repair, monogamy and polyamory, ENM, jealousy, etc.
Let me help you learn to have healthy conflict and re-connect.
Power Dynamics
Many times, a power dynamic is causing conflict. Whether a man is being emasculated or a woman is being told to “calm down,” there are many different ways this can show up. Subconsciously, a couple can inadvertently agree to submitting to the other and then become resentful because of it. This can cause dissention and disagreements.
Trust Repair
Without trust, a relationship cannot sustain or endure the inevitable stress it will encounter. I work with couples who need help to learn how to trust their partner. Vulnerability is a very scary part of trust. Past hurt, abuse, and pain causes us to lose sight of the person in front of us and project onto them, sometimes pushing them away.
Conflict
The fight about the laundry is usually not about the laundry. Holding on to feelings out of fear of getting hurt is what causes a lot of conflict about the ‘little things.’ Let’s figure out what is really bothering you and find a safe way to open up, put the fire out, and communicate about it.
Sex
If you or your partner are not having it, not talking about it, or consistently try and get rejected - let’s talk about it. Sex is a deep vulnerable connection. If the other aspects of your relationship feel heavy, sometimes sex is the one thing you cannot access.
Criticism
Criticism can take your partner down. For most, when you are criticizing someone, it is because of your own perceived inadequacies. However, in the other person, you are building a network of self doubt. This causes feelings of resentment, disrespect, and can lead to breakups.
Roots
Family of origin roots are deeply engrained. Patterns or behavior and thought can be perpetuated subconsciously. Let’s uncover some of those and work to heal the cause so the effect does not poison your present and future relationships.
